It is frustrating to read some of the blog responses on certain blogs lately. I have always valued this site because it encourages our community to post whats on your mind- the good, the bad and the ugly..in return, it is the readers choice to read or not and if they choose, are welcome to respond. If a blogger chooses to take or to ignore advice, so be it- we all learn something here everyday and some people just make changes in their own time. Live and let live.
Are we enablers, then? I dont think we are. I think we encourage, support, and leave it up to the blogger to do with as they will. My philosophy is.. even small changes are good. Why this seems to irritate some of the non-members is beyond me. But to keep picking at someone who blogs here is ridiculous to me. If you dont like the blog, dont read it.
*stepping off the soapbox now*
Last night was GS's (age 8) turn to stay the night. We had a good time. I worry about this little guy...I suspect he may be autistic...but DD2 is having a hard time getting a diagnosis. Right now he is being treated for ADHD, but I am not convinced it is a completely accurate diagnosis. Anyways, we had such a fun night. We had popcorn and watched a movie..and he made me his 'special' of the night....rootbeer with whipped cream. lol. It was actually not bad- and he was so proud. This morning, we met DD1 and my ex-brother-in-law J(kids uncle) for breakfast- is is J's birthday. I treated- $36 for the four of us.
Then, I took GS home. DD2's house was showing signs that she is a single mom with 3 small kids (GS-8, GD-4 and Z- almost 2), and is working lots of hours to try to make ends meet. So I stayed and helped clean for a couple of hours- I could tell she really appreciated the help and the clean house.
This afternoon, I am going to DD1s- SIL made me homemade tamales (yum!) and we are going to watch the Packers/49ers game. I offered to bring chips and dip, refried beans and drinks. I spent $24.
Tomorrow, DD2 is coming over with the kids so that we can work on her budget. Hopefully, we can come up with a plan that will work a little better for her..right now, she struggles from paycheck to paycheck and some of her benefits are about to get cut because she worked extra in December.
My soapbox rant - and then an update.
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Glad you had a great time with the grandkids.
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January 13th, 2013 at 01:36 am 1358041008
I think that pretty much sums it up!
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Check the Most Talked About Entries section - currently has 44 comments.
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January 13th, 2013 at 01:55 pm 1358085353
I doubt anyone here, myself at the top of the list, meant to send the message that you should delete your blog. Quite the contrary, stay and blog - your financial journey is just as important as the next blogger's. Some of the other responders were being more critical in their comments and just kept picking apart the blog.
As LR said the difference is constructive criticism vs cyberbullying. I havent read all of your responses, but have a feeling your comments alone would not have caused the closing of the ranks of the community here...there were others who were much more critical and vocal.
I hope you reconsider deleting your post with the knowledge that you will be encouraged, supported, offered advice, etc...and if you are ever on the receiving end of mean-spirited responders, the community will close ranks and let you know that you are supported.
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I don't think any of us *see* this hypocricy. I have personally never gone up to anyone and ripped them a new one because I didn't agree with their financial choices. My personal behavior is very consistent in real life and online. & of course I will always be overly protective of my "family." BUT, I personally do not generally treat people different either way. Online, real life, part of a community, anonymous outsider commenter. But if any "outsider" senses over-coddling of our own, it is fair enough. We are family - some of us have been here for YEARS and have forged deep friendships. I am sure I have illogically defended one my own at some point or other. Excuse us for being human.
I also don't expect everyone to be a financial superstar. If you aren't a total a-hole, I generally give you a wide pass. NGG has always been very nice, so I have never had any motivation to be anything but nice back to her. & beyond all that, everyone here is "trying." So, if you are "trying" and you don't pick at me for choosing to live within my means (which people have always picked on me very much in real life), then you get an "A" in my book. This is a community of forward progress and trying. That is all I ever ask of anyone. NGG is so much better off than most of the people I know in real life, financially, it isn't even funny. Doesn't mean she can't improve and move forward significantly. BUT, I also have a strong sense that she could do MUCH worse.
January 13th, 2013 at 04:57 pm 1358096249
And minipaula1- thank you. Very kind words for a gramma to hear!
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