The hub and I are in a weird place.
We moved here about 14 years ago and did not really know anyone in the area when we moved here. He has a few family memebers, but I am not very close to them for good reasons... We have always worked opposite shifts (him nights, me days) and raised 4 kids...He is 7 years younger than me. He almost 40, I just turned 47.
But we are now at a place where we want to socialize more. We have a couple of friends from my job...but thats it, friendwise.
We are not involved with church..he never will be. Until recently, I have always felt very self-consious and avoided people I did not know in social enviornments.
So how do we make friends at this age??? (why can't all of you just live nearby...I would feel quite comfy and happy sitting down and visiting with you!!)
Have any of you encountered anything like this?? and how did you overcome it?
I have my grown kids...but sometimes, I just long to have dinner with friends.
Ideas???
Update:
My promotion was announced at work today. What a nice feeling to receive congrats from your co-workers!! I am so excited. And I have several months to transition into the new responsibilities. The most exciting is that I will be overseeing security...my passion. Next month when I attend the 10th anniversary celebration with the community fraud team, I can announce that I am back on the team!!!
I will not know my raise for a while yet, but I know the parameters of my position...and I am so very blessed. I honestly will be doing the job I love, making more than I ever imagined.
I found out today that mailing the invites for the luau will be $1.34 each...so we will be hand-delivering as we can...but mailing the others and working the postage into the budget.
Lots to think about...
How do you make friends at this age?
July 2nd, 2008 at 03:08 am
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July 2nd, 2008 at 04:01 am 1214967697
I agree with klbb90... a bowling league or similar sounds like a good idea. That way you all have a common "purpose" in hanging out, so it would be less awkward in the beginning. Good luck!
July 2nd, 2008 at 04:17 am 1214968652
The network is only one piece, though. The other piece is you and yours. You have to be open, be able to do small talk, listen and assess. Are these people interesting or comfortable? Do they find you interesting? I've found that as I have turned 40 and beyond I'm less self-conscious ... and I'm more willing to fail, which helps a lot.
July 2nd, 2008 at 12:43 pm 1214999023
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July 2nd, 2008 at 02:32 pm 1215005543
Then I joined a local forum on this computer. After a few months, we decided to have a "gathering" for lunch. Now, we get together several times a year for parties, lunch, etc. We just had a cook out last Sunday night and we are having a party on 4th of July. Most of them are younger than I am, but they like to party like I do.
I wish you lived close by. We would be good friends, I am sure. Hey, I have a hubby 7 years younger than me too!!
July 2nd, 2008 at 08:51 pm 1215028302
July 9th, 2008 at 03:01 pm 1215612093
I recently had a bar-b-que on the first day of summer.
I mailed out at least 20 invites.
How many people showed up? My true friends who were there to help me set the thing up in the beginning.
My mom came with her boyfriend. You could ask people that are coming to bring someone new with them.
Best of luck and have fun. Don't worry about having friends, enjoy the ones you have.
July 13th, 2008 at 04:49 am 1215920976