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Family Court is painful!

September 12th, 2016 at 08:47 pm

Today was the court date.

As it turned out, our case was last on the morning docket- meaning there were 4 other cases heard before ours.

Child after child being placed in foster care because of unhealthy home environments. Drugs and neglect in each situation...a brand new nursing baby removed from its 18 year old mother, a 13 year old crying as she was told she was removed from her home- a home with drugs and 9 dogs, a child that neither parent bothered to show for court. Just gut wrenching case after case.

When our case came, it wasnt much different. In the end, 2 more kids put in foster care another child transferred to the other parent, a very upset mother and a sense of relief that the kids will be safe for a while. The sister will go to dad, the boys were placed with DD2. (Yay!)

Z is back, along with his baby brother, in DD2s care...after 22 months away. It quickly became very apparent that BM and her mom will not be making this easy and intend to fight the placement vehemently. Foster parents sometimes need a thick skin when they step in to help. Hurtful words, threats, accusations. It got ugly. Sigh.

But on a much happier note, Z was so excited about his first day at school. He had major anxiety this morning about being left by DD2, but the teacher, who knows his situation, took extra care to make his day special.

The next court date is October 27- barring any surprises, the placement should hold until then, and beyond. DD2 was present at the hearing and the judge made a special point in thanking her for her contributions.

While I am extremely happy with the judges decision, I worry what it will do to Z if/when he is pulled again from DD2's care. He is extremely attached to her.

Time will tell. For today, lil Z and baby brother J, welcome home!

7 Responses to “Family Court is painful!”

  1. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Happy to hear Z and little baby J have a few weeks of stability with DD2. Absolutely heartbreaking what some of these kids go through, they should be able to only have the worries of normal kids; what to play with next etc not where will they be living.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    A good first step. The process is so hard on the kids! God bless your daughter. Smile

  3. tabs Says:

    What a dreadful environment. I suppose the only solace is knowing that these courts are ultimately doing good for these children who need help the most.

  4. snafu Says:

    Blessings to you and DDs and your actions to benefit these DKs. I don't think I can imagine what these children's lives are like and their emotional distress. Prayers for DD as she's whipped through the legal process and emotional upheaval once again.

  5. CB in the City Says:

    BM should "fight" the decision with self-examination, good behavior and cleaning up her act, not ugly words for the one who cleaning up her mess, so to speak. Probably won't happen, but how can they be so blind?

  6. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Thanks everyone. Yesterday was tough, but today is a new day. While we have them, the goal is to make their lives fun and happy. Lots of hugs and attention. I appreciate all of the support here. XO

  7. frugaltexan75 Says:

    I'm so glad little Z and brother are having a good stable home, even if for a little while. They are lucky to have found you and your family.

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