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Im the budget bully of the family

November 20th, 2006 at 04:49 am

This weekend was my weekend to be the budget bully.

I am doing anything possible to stay frugal and on task. I am using less laundry soap, dishwasher soap, toilet paper, shampoo, etc. I have stayed true to my DO NOT BUY list for 2006---even when that means going the rest of the year with one pair of jeans and a pair of black sweats...and holey tennis shoes.
I use coupons and I watch sales and I stock up on good bargains. I dont get my hair cut, do my own nails and make do with what I have, even though that means a kitchen that has linoleum peeling in spots, a glass stove top thats cracked, and an entire linen closet of hand-me-downs. And the wheels on my dining room chairs broke many years ago...but who needs wheels on dining chairs anyway?? (But we are down to 4 out of 6 original chairs and the table wobbles because it has been repaired many times).

Am I painting this frugal picture???

So, Saturday night, DH pops out with "Ive figured out how I can afford a new ATV."....(to the tune of $6000)...Uh, I dont care how much figuring we've done...I would like a few things FIXED OR REPLACED around the house before we even CONSIDER toys...and then the not-so-fun conversation ensued. I cant really say it was an angry conversation...but I definately felt like the mom of a spoiled toddler for the duration.

Tonight, we head to walmart and DD3 comes up with shampoo and conditioner, and a pair of flannel jammies.

Um, I have a CLOSET FULL of shampoo and conditioner that I got at great deals...nice stuff too---but she doesnt want to use it because they dont "match"..or they make her hair greasy, etc, etc. So I said fine, then buy them with your allowance...otherwise, you are welcome to use anything in the closet.

Oh boy...and for the jammies...Ive bought her 4 pair in the past two NO she didnt need them...and ended up buying those herself.

I dont think Id be nominated for wife/mommy of the year tonight.

I hope I am not being a martyr. I truly want to forego so that we are in a better financial place...but somedays I feel as though I am swimming upstream.

Somedays I wonder...

Thank goodness tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.


10 Responses to “Im the budget bully of the family”

  1. boomeyers Says:

    Didn't you know? You are swimming upstream! Againist the tide of debt! And we are here to help you along!
    My daughters have to pay for just about everything themselves! In fact DD3 decided to help herself to the RediWhip I bought for Thanksgiving (without permission of course). So she is doing chores to earn enough to replace it!
    Stick to your guns girl!

  2. PRICEPLUS Says:

    Stick to your guns! Someone has to be the voice of sanity and that is you! I'd like an ATV but hey you have to put money aside after other things like fixing the house are taken care of. Needs come before wishes!WinkSmile

  3. rduell Says:

    I'm so glad to read this, Ray! I thought we were the only ones that made our kids earn money and then buy their own "luxuries". All of our kids has a regular job and pays for things for themselves. Their jobs have included babysitting, delivering newspapers, working for a mechanic, working at a sub shop, and a grocery store. It's taught them the value of money and working for what you want.

    I do have to admit to having to reign in the DH every once in a while also. He finds it hard to believe that large balances on CCs aren't paid off in a matter of a few months!

  4. tinapbeana Says:

    wow, ray is married to my husband too! when did they clone DH? he too wants an ATV (among many, many other things) even though we are still paying the honda card bill for his 1st ATV (which we no longer have: he sold it and spent the money before we got married). ARGH!!!

    if you're DH has an allowance, maybe he can start saving for the ATV out of that? like the kids spending money on their own luxuries out of their allowances... or, maybe break down and work it like parents have worked out cars for teenagers for all time: DH saves half and the house will kick in half....

  5. Broken Arrow Says:

    I too was the budget bully in the family, so I can feel your pain.

  6. mbkonef Says:

    I too am always forced to be the budget bully in my family. My husband is out of work but will whine for takeout pizza, Dairy Queen etc. and force me to be the big meanie who is always saying no. He has his good qualities, but this is definitely one of the most frustrating things he does. He makes it seem like I am being the bad guy when all I am doing is being financially responsible. How evil of me!

  7. Ima saver Says:

    Tomorrow will be a better day!

  8. fairy74 Says:

    DH is usually very good about finances but every once in awhile I have to budget bad guy---Keep your head up!

  9. miclason Says:

    ...I'm the killjoy at home...I'm always reminding everyone that we should at least TRY to think about needs before wants...I've sort of given up on sis and my niece...except that I still make the speeches for Ale's benefit, so she sees where WE stand!

  10. baselle Says:

    Hey, Thrifty Ray -- enjoy it. Clearly you wield a lot of power and respect in your home. (Notice, DH and DD have to ask you first, they don't just buy over your head!)

    In a weird sort of way you should take some pleasure out of being the bully. Big Grin

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