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Angry silence...sigh

March 18th, 2009 at 01:32 am

I actually got home today before the sun went down!!

I picked DD3 up from school and had a very silent trip home. I volunteered to pack food boxes this weekend for our community food bank and asked if she would like to join me, she turned me down. So, I will ask her again, and hopefully she will agree. I think some community service would do her heart good. She is definately ANGRY. When we got home, she went to her room and slammed the door. SHe is reading a book tonight. Our appointment with the counselor is Friday at 2pm. The counselor specializes in troubled teens. I hope she can give me tips on how to deal with all of this anger.

If you read my blogs, you know how much I love and adore my family. But I am committed to doing tough love for as long as it takes to get DD3 back on track. Is it easy or pleasant....absolutely not...but as a mom I will do whatever it takes to help DD3 make better choices. Please keep your fingers crossed for us.

My boss was great this morning when I met with him. He told me to adjust my schedule to whatever I comes first. (Have I mentioned I love my boss???) So, I will work 7-3:45 at work and take a short lunch.

My new assistant starts on Thursday, so I will get her trained and my dept is fully staffed...and I have all the right people on the team!!! This will mean the stress at work should start to subside. Smile

Tonight I had leftovers for dinner. All the cooking the last few days is paying off. Tonight I am going to make some oatmeal for breafast at work the rest of the week. SInce I am starting early, I will need it. Luckily, my job provides free coffee, so no cost there.

We also have enough leftovers for the remainder of the lunches are covered.

And finally, getting home earlier means more time to do laundry and housework...perhaps this new temp schedule will be good for my stress level. Lord knows, I could use a break from it right now...

Much to be grateful for, much to overcome.

8 Responses to “Angry silence...sigh”

  1. momcents Says:

    In my life prior to parenting, I was a psychotherapist who worked for a time on an adolescent psych unit. From what I see, you are doing everything right - and a unified parental front should bring the point home that you are committed to helping her do the right thing. Best wishes and prayers for you and your family during this time of trouble.

  2. whitestripe Says:

    oh, i feel for you. luckily for my mum, i 'appeared' to be a spectacular teenager, and i came through the other side alright (what they don't know won't hurt them!). My younger sister is another story though - she is 14 but sounds much like your dd3. slams doors, rolls eyes, cuts up her clothes (turns jeans into scrappy short shorts, makes skirts very small, sews them in etc etc). pretty much she's a nightmare. runs away whenever she doesnt get her own way. when she's told to do something a certain way, she'll do it a different way, and then get all angry when she gets in trouble...*sigh*. i oh i bet they can't WAIT til she is your dd's age. she is going to be a terror. you can rest in the knowledge that by the time most people are 18 or so, they start realising they have to act a little more maturely!
    good luck!

  3. oceansluver78 Says:

    My youngest sister who is 16 (I'm 30)is a little tyrant slash princess if that makes any sense. My parents laid down the law on us older ones and laid the belt many a times too. They decided not to spank to youngest, at the time I applauded them for taking this stance, now they're trying to undo 16 years of spoiling her. It's not boding well. Although in my parents defense if they were to spank her they way they spanked me. I'm pretty sure they would be in jail right now Frown

  4. oceansluver78 Says:

    What upsets me the most, is that her and my step sister dont appericate the hard work my dad does for both of them, like buying them a new car, since they refuse to ride the bus, she hasn't riden the bus once to school! My dad helped me buy a truck when i was 28...sigh... Poor guy he's worked at sea since he was 16. Bieng away from home from 7 to 10 days at a time.

  5. boomeyers Says:

    My older two are your normal hormonal teenage angst and I can handle that. My youngest, DD3 ironically, is only 11 but exhibits such anger it is scary! My sister was a very angry child/teenager, well and adult and I am afraid DD3 will end up the same way. She was a regular happy baby and toddler and around 8 just got very cynical, angry and sarcastic. Let me know if this counselor has some good advice!! I think many of us on the site could use it!
    Good luck and I hope the new hours really work fantastically! And I hope the new assistant is just what you want (even though it isn't me! Stick Out Tongue)

  6. baselle Says:

    In my most recent co worker training, we learned that if someone gives us silence, we should be silent back for 30 seconds, then say, "I take that as a no." Of course that is for supposed adults.

  7. Ima saver Says:

    I sure hope things get better soon.

  8. Amber Says:

    I'm praying for you guys and am sure things will get better

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