It is a blessing that our minds go numb when we have had enough. Mine did just that at the funeral place yesterday when the guy felt the need to explain cremation (which was my moms wish).
Final expense $1425. Fortunately, my mom had enough money to pay that and the medical bills that I am sure will follow and still have a little left to provide a small token inheritance to the grand and great grandkids. I always told my mom to enjoy her money, that I would much rather sell her last teacup than have money left that she could have used and enjoyed. Of course my kids are eager to learn what is theirs...sigh. Settle down kids. Mom needs to deal with the grief and we need to let the bills trickle in and be paid first. I have to wonder where I went wrong here..when my grandma died I didnt ask for anything but accepted the little musical statue with pleasure when it was offered....and I cherish it to this day.
My parents will was very simple since I was their only surviving child, everything was left for me with thier blessing to use my judgement to decide where it goes. My daughter told me yesterday that my mom had told her over the past couple of weeks where she wanted some jewelry/money to go...which is fine except her siblings might not agree and I am not sure my mom thought it through. WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE SO FREAKIN TOUGH when it hurts so much???? Now they want to have a meeting to discuss it and all I want to do is finish accepting that she is gone. argh.
Oh well...one step at a time.
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I'm so sorry that you have to face this in addition to your grief.
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