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Shocked and a little hurt....

February 22nd, 2011 at 04:10 am

I have been planning a 50th birthday bash for a 6 months and it is still 3 months away.... I rented a beautiful 8 bedroom home at a resort for 4 days and am paying all expenses while we are there. I have invited my kids and my dearest friends...all they have to do is get there. Each couple has a king size suite/bathroom of their own...(my budget for this mini-vacation is $, drinks, decorations, gifts for my guests... a fantastic home...)

Tonight, my BFF since age 12 told me she doesnt know if she can make it. HUH??? Over a month ago I found roundtrip airline tickets for her and her hub for $500...I offered to pay half...

This isnt an issue of money for them...this is the same friend that was planning the jamaica trip for her birthday that would have cost us $3700 to attend. (They have since decided to do a carribean cruise instead on their own)

She is just reluctant to ask her boss for the time off. HUH??? She is a nanny and apparently the boss's business is struggling and he is stressed out. Did I mention she has had 6 months already and still has three months left to ask for a Thursday and Friday off????

I am baffled..and a little (ok, A LOT) hurt.

She said she will let me know for sure soon so I can invite someone else...HUH?

I dont get this. Seriously. what did I miss.


6 Responses to “Shocked and a little hurt....”

  1. frugaltexan75 Says:


  2. CB in the City Says:

    You may not know everything that's going on with her. I endured some hurt about a year ago when it seemed my BFF was replacing me with another BFF. Turns out the other woman was very strong and was taking over my friend's social life -- it took her a while to figure out how to set boundaries. I'm still a little hurt that she let this woman mow over BOTH of us, but friendships change, just as other relationships do. Anyway, it's my guess that asking for time off is not the whole problem. There's probably something else that she is not ready to share yet.

  3. momcents Says:

    I'm so sorry ... I don't deal with disappointment well, especially when I've planned and hoped. (hugs)

  4. MonkeyMama Says:

    I wouldn't take it so personally. Honestly, at least she gave a lot of notice (versus the last minute ditch). I wouldn't jump to any conclusions.

    It is a bummer. ((HUGS))

  5. Ima saver Says:

    I am sooooo sorry!

  6. Petunia 100 Says:

    I'm sorry, Ray. I would also guess that there is something going on she hasn't shared yet. I hope she can make it for your milestone birthday!

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