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Your mom said....

March 16th, 2011 at 03:26 am

Wow. Social media and unknown relatives. I got a message on facebook today. "I want to get the pictures of my grandparents that your mom said I could have when she was gone"....

Got this from a cousin of my moms today who I have never talked to. These are my great grandparents pictures that have hung in my home for mom never mentioned that she was giving them away...and now I get a curt message that she will pay to have them mailed.


My mom never mentioned the promise..but I can imagine her doing so...and then never saying anything to me. So I offered to send copies. Not sure where this will go now. Hopefully she will be ok with copies of the originals. If not, Im not sure what I will do at this point.

sigh.. (A 'Hi Ray, I am so sorry your mom is gone" would have been nice...)

Oh well. Enjoyed left over pizza for dinner..and leftover steak that the hub bbqd yesterday, and potato for lunch. the next two days are free lunch days at work due to meetings. This will be an inexpensive week for food.

I am looking for a great cupcake recipe to make for the birthday...I budgeted for a whimsical cake...but making cupcakes with my female friends sounds fun and will definately save $$. But I want a really good recipe...thankfully there are lots to choose from. Now to start trying and testing and

Still no baby. Not a bad thing since the mom is still learning about baby care....

11 Responses to “Your mom said....”

  1. whitestripe Says:

    technically i don't think you have to give her anything. she might have said it, she might not have, and you are her daughter after all, anything that is in posession of your mother goes to you when she passes, atleast that's how the law works here anyhow.

  2. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    That does sound rude. I can understand the desire to have photos of one's ancestors, but the way you were asked/demanded-- no, no, no! You are kind to have responded with the offer of copies. Copies should be just fine. In no rush whatsoever.

    The new Mom-to-be sounds like she might be getting your "Phyllis gift" this year. That is such a wonderful thing to do.

  3. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Oh remember my Phyllis gift...I am beyond Thank you!!!!!

    Yes, I am thinking the request was on the rude side. I dont want to go against my moms wishes..but I also have sentimental value in these orgiginals...

    Hugs...and thank you!

  4. creditcardfree Says:

    I would be happy with copies. I think that is a fair solution.

    Now I need to know what the Phyllis gift is! Please share if appropriate.

  5. momcents Says:

    As a recipient of a copy of an original photo, I was simply happy to have it. There was one known surviving picture of my great-great grandparents, which I wanted to have for my children (most of their other sets of great-great grandparents were captured in photos for them). The owner of the picture was quite defensive when I requested a copy. We actually agreed upon a picture of the picture which suited my needs nicely and she didn't need to fear any harm coming to the original. Please note: had she said "NO", I would have graciously removed my request. I was met with "What if something happens to it?" (Which is a valid concern).

    I hope you're able to find a happy compromise. I'd suggest a copy.

  6. dmontngrey Says:

    I swear there's one in every family... when my grandmother died, her sister cornered my aunt and demanded the silverware. DEMANDED it in a very threatening way. My aunt played dumb, her aunt moved along and no one ever heard from her again.

    Her request was a bit rude and I think you were correct in the proposed solution. Hope you can find an agreeable compromise. Smile

  7. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I'm going to answer about the "Phyllis gift" in case Thrifty Ray is too modest.

    Sometime ago when Thrifty Ray was a struggling single mother there was a death in her family. A neighbor of her parents, herself a single mother, scraped together a money gift so that Thrifty Ray could spend a bit more time with her family. Since then, Thrifty Ray has paid it forward by giving such a gift to another single parent every year. Isn't she dear?

    Ironically, late last night we got word that my FIL had died....And fitting this blog, my DH is a photographer who many times (both before the home computer age and since) has made copies and restored photos for people whose older relatives had passed on leaving too few photos in too bad a condition. He has never charged for that, yet in those older days the work sometimes took hours.

  8. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    Forgot to say Phyllis is the name of the person who helped Thrifty Ray.

  9. momcents Says:

    Aw, Joan ((hugs)) I am sorry about your FIL. Please accept my condolences. Prayers offered for your FIL.

  10. momcents Says:

    And that was very kind of your husband to help restore people's cherished memories.

  11. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Beyond touched. First- Joan- you are amazing. You recalled my Phyllis story so well. And yes, I still pay it forward whenever an opportunity comes up. Thank you sooo much for being so sweet to remember, and then to respond to the question about it. wow...simply wow.

    I am so sorry to read about your FIL- it sounds like he was an amazing person. Hugs to you!!!

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