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Highs and lows in friendships

October 28th, 2012 at 05:14 am

My girls and I went to the Tea today and had such a wonderful time. My friend made all the food for the tea- 3 types of sandwiches, 2 types of scones, various cookies and cakes, lemon curd, devonshire cream...and they served 6 different teas- all of them wonderful, and a wonderful a strawberry lemonade. There were about 30 attendees. My friend and her husband put a big effort into this..and last night, their oldest son (who is stationed in Japan) and his fairly new bride (who is stationed in Afghanistan, surprised them by coming home for a visit. Poor friend...the kids are only in town two days and they had this event today! It turned out beautiful, but sure cut into her time to visit with them. Tickets for the four of us $80. I also bought 4 raffle tickets for $20. DD3 won an adorable Breast Cancer pin and DD2 won the grand prize, which is a room makeover book and an hour consultation with a home decorator. DD2 gave it to me..Big Grin So I will put it to good use soon.

After the tea, we stopped by Kohls. After my shopping trip last week, I received $20 Kohl's cash. I decide to get a cozy throw. Somehow, my other ones have been 'borrowed' by kids and I dont have one. I keep the house fairly cool during the winter, so lately my feet/legs have been chilly. They had nice ones on sale 50% off, or 24.99..I used the 20 and then got 15% off- or $4.27. I have told the kids HANDS OFF this one.

A while back I mentioned another friend who has recently gotten into a multi-level marketing 'business'. I was hoping that she would take my total lack of interest as indication that I didnt intend to buy or start selling. Unfortunately, that isnt going to be the case. This past week she has been at a convention and is clearly renewed in her committed to turning everyone she knows into a sale or a salesperson under her. Her new tactic is an empowerment luncheon that she would like to have me attend, no cost. and perhaps I could bring a friend. ugh. I will stick to my no thank you, but I will obviously have to just be blunt- and I know it will hurt the friendship. :/ Not something I want to do, but I am tired of the constant barrage.

The friend with the tea shop and this MLM friend are also good friends- the three of us get together for lunch occasionally. I have no problem buying tea once in a while or attending her tea luncheons..but the other friends business is almost cult like and once you sign up for the auto shipments $160 every four months), it is very difficult to get out of. NO THANK YOU. I would gladly just give her money each month, but she is very prideful and wouldnt accept it. Sadly she is so determined to make the business work that she is alienating people.

In other news, the hub said he cant guarantee when he will be home this winter, so we are going to pass on the Hawaii adventure for now. Frown It is such a good deal, but I learned in Alaska that its not as much fun if he misses most or all of the vacation. I am certain other opportunities will come along.

7 Responses to “Highs and lows in friendships”

  1. Wino Says:

    You can try just telling her that the MLM requires selling, and you just aren't cut out to be a salesman, but that otherwise you'd jump at such an opportunity (OK... probably best to leave out the "jump at" part of that).

  2. ceejay74 Says:

    Very sad ... I've luckily never personally known anyone who got into those. I know for sure it would affect our friendship, because when someone gets into that, they don't leave you alone about it.

    On a lighter note, my husband is from Devon, so I know all about clotted cream! Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately), I'm vegan so I can't sample it.

  3. Monkey Mama Says:

    The MLM friendshsip might take some time. I was not close friends with but knew someone who was insane with one of those MLM busisesses. I don't even wear makeup but she really thought I should be a makeup sales person, and never let up after many years. HA! Anyway, after a few years she finally admitted she never made any money, and ended up kind of respecting me more because I saw through it all along. Hopefully it won't take your friend many years... But she might need your shoulder to cry on when it all comes crashing down around her. She is pressuring everyone because she is being pressured.

    There are instances where one can do well with a MLM business (I know someone who got in "early" with one and makes a really good wage mostly on commissions from her underlings - I don't think she is even much into the actual sales these days). But those instances are rare and far between. You have to get at the very bottom of the "pyramid," for one.

  4. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    You are wise to stay away from the MLMs. I've had people, some actual friends, some people I thought were making overtures of friendship, try to get me into MLMs. It can be very disappointing to find out that the "lunch" or "get together" is actually a front for a MLM recruitment meeting.

    I'm sorry your Hawaii plans fell through. Hopefully something even better will come along in its place. Smile

  5. Blessed Says:

    The tea sounds wonderful and I must say what a sweetie your daughter is to give you the room makeover! You raised a very generous young lady! Congrats to you!

    I'm sorry to hear of the MLM friend issue. I have one I rarely see now because of trying to push the Body BY VI stuff on my constantly. She even tried to push that my 125 pound 6ft 2 child should be using it. Nah, the DR says the kid is healthy as a horse and blessed with a metabolism that lets him eat 24/7 of REAL food.

  6. TexasDisneyGirl Says:

    The MLMs drive me crazy! I'm a stay-at-home mom and it seems to be the occupation of choice for other stay-at-home moms. And it's a major social outlet. I'm always invited to "parties" and I try my hardest to always say no. Because it just seems like they are all buying eachother's products but not really getting anywhere.

  7. Looking Forward Says:

    That's great, a consult/room makeover! I'd like to get a professional opinion someday.

    If you and MLM friend are good friends then I would just be blunt and say "It's not going to happen for me, but I wish you the best of luck."

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