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Pride and anger - keeping both in check

June 11th, 2013 at 08:38 pm

I am humbled by everyone's support. This has been a very tiring experience. Thank you.

I was not as successful as Id originally hoped on finding another place. Apartments dont really leave room for the grandkids to play outside and houses I realistically can afford are either very run down or in a questionable area. Neither of which are desireable. I miss my house. What is frustrating is that no matter what angle I approach it, I will be paying very close to what my house payment is for these places.

My moms little place is free. So, I am going to stay in the little house for now. He goes back to Alaska tomorrow, so I have the next month to figure things out and save some money. My pride takes one for the financial team.

It is easy when you are in the throes of anger to know exactly what you will do. Then reality sets in. I am extremely confused, disappointed, hurt, and sad. I dont think it was as bad as I originally thought, but the lie is still there. He is extremely remorseful. Counseling may be the short term answer, at least for me.

But enough of that. I have a month to determine what to do.

11 Responses to “Pride and anger - keeping both in check”

  1. FreebieQueen Says:

    My therapist told me that it was like someone dying. You go through all the same stages of grief.

  2. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    {{{Ray}}} Frown I don't have any words of wisdom to offer. Just know that you've got a big supporter in NM rooting for you.

  3. Wink Says:

    One day at a time. When I went through this I was spitting nails angry one day, resolved and calm the next, and crying like a baby the next. It just takes time. Be kind to yourself! (((Hugs)))

  4. snafu Says:

    Perhaps counselling can offer the structure that will help you make the best decisions for yourself. Give yourself the time to work through all those feelings that bubble up and feel confident that you have a passel of friends no further away than your computer. We're all cheering for you. {{{{Hugs}}}}

  5. MonkeyMama Says:

    The others have wise words to say. All I can add: ((HUGS))

  6. Baby_nurse Says:

    You have every reason to be angry and every reason to feel prideful. Let it on out. Definitely go to counseling for YOU. I'm glad you will have some time to work on your feelings without feeling pressured.

  7. SecretarySaving Says:

    It is probably best to stay in the little house now that is free for awhile. What happened with the townhouse 2 mins from your job? That sounded like a nice place.

  8. rob62521 Says:

    I am sure you are both exhausted emotionally and physically from this and discouraged...all very natural things. You are a strong, smart woman and you will figure things out. Give yourself some time. Glad you can stay in the little house free to give you some breathing room. I think the counseling is an excellent idea to help you work through things. We support you, our friend!

  9. Joanne Says:

    going to a counselor for youself sounds like a really good idea. Thinking about what is best for you , and just taking the time to try to resolve in your mind what you want to do takes time. You can depend on sound like a very strong person.. Wishing you the best..

  10. Swimgirl Says:

    Take care of yourself, Ray!

  11. My English Castle Says:

    It's always so helpful to have someone to talk to that has no stakes in the game. When my first marriage was falling apart, my counselor really helped me. Wishing you good things.

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